Something that Mom said once that I didn't get until now ...

A very long time ago, Fabiola's Mom said to (the world Fab suspects), "you are erasing me".

Fab didn't understand.  Why would she?  The Fab was in her early twenties.  Now, she gets it.  There is an essay in this somewhere, and the Fab will get to it here, presently.  Meanwhile, Ladies, if the years and your world are starting to erase you, grab a pencil and go.